|Austin isn't much on Small Talk either, just feed and pet him please|
There are two ways to think of Small Talk. One way is to accept that you are going to be stuck with the other person for some lenght of time and you might as well make the best of it. you talk about unimportant safe subjects that won't offend anyone or reveal any significant secrets.
The other way is to view small talk as a tennis game of phatic talk until a more substantial subject arises.
Them: Isn't this great weather?
me (playing along): Yes though it's unusually warm for this time of year.
Them: So what do you do for fun?
me (finally something fun): I run marathons and stalk real estate.
Them (ignoring my peeked interest and moving to the next topic): Do you have any vacations planned?
me: Purple, because aliens don't wear hats.
Them: Aren't these crabcakes delightful?
And I think this is where the break down occurs. I'm from the second camp and I often encounter people from the first. I get frustrated if I find a topic I want to talk about or want to steer the conversation towards, and the other person is going through their script of safe, boring topics that they don't care what the answers are.
One of the things I truly hate about social small talk is when personA asks me a litany of questions, most of which are Icarus-FAQs because they already stalk me on FB, and then as soon as they are done, PersonB walks in and asks the same exact questions. I'm like, really you couldn't get here when the movie started!
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