First, a story. When we were getting married NG and I did the wedding protocol. We sent out Save-the-dates and subsequently, wedding invites. A particular person was dodgy on providing their address the first time I asked and I should have taken that as a hint.
Fast forward, on our wedding invite RSVP they wrote that not only couldn't they attend, they couldn't attend because they had a block party they had to be at. As someone who has been accused of being tactless, not reading the room, social manners lite, etc, I fail to understand why people overshare shit like this. What is the thought process? why share that the most important day of my life gets trumped by a bouncy house and drunk neighbors! And the kicker? this asshat went through a wedding themself so they should know how precious each limited seat is.
Now to the present. Another friend is getting married soon and we are invited to the wedding. It's impractical to attend, especially since we
have had plans to be in Chicago two weeks prior. But there is also the "this friend has been on radio silence" for a bit factor.
Dark Icarus would look at it like, oh you reach out when you need something from me but have ignored my texts and messages. But trying to be a better person Icarus is thinking that the right thing to do here is not hold a seat hostage until the last minute.
So I declined the invite well in advance of the RSVP date.