Showing posts with label ChicagoNow. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ChicagoNow. Show all posts

Thursday, June 13, 2024

Practical Life Lesson: Genuine Offer versus Conversational Device

 Over at the defunct ChicagoNow, I did a post about Life Lessons.  It was a gallery so when I exported that blog to my personal (unused) WordPress site, they didn't come over.  I had to use Wayback Machine to get them.  I figured putting the more pertinent ones here might be beneficial.

Practical Life Lesson: Genuine Offer versus Conversational Device

It’s really hard to distinguish 'Conversational Device’ from ‘Genuine Offer’ until you’ve been around the block a few times because Conversational Devices are often gift-wrapped as Genuine Offers.



Simply put, this is someone offering to do something for you with no intention of actually doing anything for you. Usually, it's an unintentional thing. At the time they sincerely believe they will deliver on their promise. But the reality is they just won't be there when you think they will. Other times it is totally intentional and premeditated. It is how this person gets their ya-yas which is Swedish for get's off.



Have you ever run into a friend who says something along the line of "We have to get together sometime." Maybe you take the bait and say sure and you reach out to them. In a healthy relationship on Planet Normal, you get together reasonably soon after that chance encounter. Other times you volley back and forth on dates that could work. You find that the person is either busy or non-committal on any date thrown out. Sometimes it takes a while to realize that the other party just doesn't want to get together.

You want to believe the best in people and it takes a few burns until the naive goes away. What's worse is that for some strange reason, our society seems to look down on the person who fell for it, not the person who dished it out.


Practical Life Lesson: Don't give someone a fork when they ask for a spoon

 Over at the defunct ChicagoNow, I did a post about Life Lessons.  It was a gallery so when I exported that blog to my personal (unused) WordPress site, they didn't come over.  I had to use Wayback Machine to get them.  I figured putting the more pertinent ones here might be beneficial.


Practical Life Lesson: Don't give someone a fork when they ask for a spoon

This one has a lot of subtle nuances. If someone literally hasn't eaten in a week you give them whatever is on your plate. However, if they just skipped lunch, giving them your cheeseburger doesn't do them any good if they are vegan, or lactose intolerant.



Give people what they say they want or need or get out of the way. People generally want to help one another, however, some people just aren't good at it for one reason or another. I like to say people mean well but execute poorly. Sometimes it's because they chose the one type of help that doesn't require them to get off the sofa.



Other times it is because some people want to get the credit for helping out without doing any of the actual work. Even when the level of effort to help out is far less than the effort of looking like you're helping out.

Practical Life Lesson : Don't Try to Control The Weather

  Over at the defunct ChicagoNow, I did a post about Life Lessons.  It was a gallery so when I exported that blog to my personal (unused) WordPress site, they didn't come over.  I had to use Wayback Machine to get them.  I figured putting the more pertinent ones here might be beneficial.


Practical Life Lesson: Don't Try to Control The Weather

There are things in this world that you can control, like what you eat for breakfast, what you wear to the office, and even how many books you read or shoes you buy. On the other hand, there are many things you just cannot control, like traffic or other people's actions, or as indicated: the weather.



So stop trying to control it anyway. Yes, it would be awesome if the person you gave your number to at a great party yesterday called you today. It may or may not happen but more importantly, it’s outside your powers.



Sure, it would be best if the lady standing to the left on the escalator moved to the right like everyone else, but it’s too late, she is.

Dwelling on things that you cannot control in this world will make you crazy like a bag of unpetted kittens and it will do you no good. it's wasted energy. …focus on those things that you have direct control over and indirect influence on.

Let. It. Go!

Practical Life Lesson: Cats and Dogs and Social Maintenance

 Over at the defunct ChicagoNow, I did a post about Life Lessons.  It was a gallery so when I exported that blog to my personal (unused) WordPress site, they didn't come over.  I had to use Wayback Machine to get them.  I figured putting the more pertinent ones here might be beneficial.

Practical Life Lesson: Cats and Dogs and Social Maintenance

There's a famous pet meme out there. I'm including the picture but the text is "I cannot come to your cat's birthday party. My dog is getting married that day." There are various incantations and the one I've pictured goes the extra step of pet owner A insulting pet owner B.


There are at least two life lessons here. The first is that if you want people to care about your "cat's wedding" you have to care about their "dog's birthday party."



The second is that people will treat your "cat's wedding" like it is the most unimportant thing in the world and make you feel bad for even suggesting they be part of it, but will expect you to drop everything for their "dog's birthday party."

Practical Life Lesson: 11th Hour Cancellations

Over at the defunct ChicagoNow, I did a post about Life Lessons.  It was a gallery so when I exported that blog to my personal (unused) WordPress site, they didn't come over.  I had to use Wayback Machine to get them.  I figured putting the more pertinent ones here might be beneficial.


Practical Life Lesson: 11th Hour Cancellations

When someone cancels plans with you at the last minute, the reason falls into one of two buckets.

 Bucket#1: something came up last minute that prevented the person from participating. The boss implemented an arbitrary but firm deadline. A child got sick.



Bucket #2: the person never wanted to do it in the first place and the pressure finally was too much that they hit the panic button and canceled, often through some backdoor method like a text or voice mail.



The way you know which bucket it was is whether or not they follow up to reschedule if/when things calm down. If they reach out and say something along the lines of hey things were crazy last week but everything seems back to normal, how about we try again?

Friday, May 5, 2023

Looking for the good news

 So let's talk about some minor good news.  For years I've been managing a Facebook Page and a Twitter account, initially for promoting the stuff over at ChicagoNow, though the FB Fan Page is more of a MEME page for the last couple of years.  I'm finally getting the kind of traffic I would have killed for when I first started.  Although not nearly as much as the heavy hitters get on an hourly basis.

How did it happen?  Well in the beginning very slowly.  I begged friends and fellow bloggers to like my page and only a small minority acquiesced.  We were told not to buy followers but for some reason, that sounded a tad suspicious.  I mean I know that most of the purchased likes are likely fake accounts but what if everyone else is doing it?  I did a little experiment and invested a measly $25 (I think, it's been a while) and bought a few followers to get me up over some number.  After that, it seemed that my visibility increased slightly.  More of my organic likes were seeing my Page.


Months or perhaps even a year or more later (maybe I'll spend some time looking up the stats) I invested $100, a birthday present to me.  I managed to surpass the 2K mark and now my page seems to get more traffic.  Some of my friends don't even remember that it's my page but they share it as if it's a real celebrity lol.

As for Twitter that's even more of a mystery.  I had an account since nearly the beginning but didn't do much with it.  It was a long time before I surpassed 1K.  I think I worked the TwitterVerse slowly and steadily and the number increased the same.  Then one day (March 19, 2014) I started getting tons of followers, most with middle eastern and Arabic handles.  Our theory is someone with a similar Twitter name or ID bought some followers and I got them instead.  I'm still short of the magic 10K which supposedly makes you an influencer unless that number has increased but I don't mind.  


Thursday, August 18, 2022

Good Bye ChicagoNow, it's been a slice

 I started blogging at ChicagoNow on October 1, 2012, although I haven’t really published much since Boris and Natasha were born. Anyway, the Powers-That-Be at the Chicago Tribune and Alden Global Capital closed the site down today.

No one communicated anything to us either by email or on our Facebook Group. We knew it was coming when our last community manager resigned at the end of June and said we’d heard something in a few days.  And honestly, I suspected the end was coming when our first and best community manager Jimmy Greenfeld took the trib buyout and left.  Then the annoying ads in the middle of our posts came.  

Some bloggers continued to post even though the Front Page (landing page, home page whatever term you prefer) wasn’t updating. A few bloggers wrote goodbye posts that apparently caught the higher-ups’ attention because those were taken down.

It’s kinda crappy the way they chose to go about it. Some of those blogs brought in large audiences which I’m sure led to decent passive revenue. I suspect our site didn’t cost them much especially once they cut the monetary rewards for Best Post and Best Gallery (which I won a few times).

No skin off my nose as I wasn’t one of the paid talents (they use to pay some of the heavy hitters but stopped that years ago and the heavy hitters went elsewhere). But I was hoping to post a Last Post on my blogoversary in October and was also hoping to link to a podcast I might be on; the ChicagoNow traffic would have helped.

When I  joined CN, if you wanted to get a space there,  you needed a pitch.  My wife and I were house hunting and so Adventures in House Hunting was created.  Ironically, sometime after my first or second post, we made an offer on a house.  That house would be the home my kids were born in and filled with treasured memories.

At some point, our Editor announced that you could blog about anything you wanted.  Spoiler alert: you always could, but this just made it official.  

It was like Hogwarts for Bloggers.  I know with Rowling's TERF issues that reference is not as pure as it once was.  I said what I said.

I made many virtual and even real friendships with many bloggers here.  I also pissed off a few and we are no longer FB friends.  boo hoo.  

Some people were really cool, including the heavy hitters.  They gave my Fan Page a like when that thing had more currency than it does today.  Others felt it was a zero-sum game and wouldn't click the button, which is fine.  Except for the one person who kept asking me for tech support but couldn't click like.  WTF.


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Sunday, April 10, 2016

This kinda scares me actually

I published a post about Gia Alverez, a an avid runner, blogger and running coach, who has been banned from running the Boston Marathon for life.  

The thing about blogging about something like this is you either have to publish while it's hot or wait until as much information is available so you don't look like a fool when the next shoe is dropped.
That means you're going to say something that people don't like or agree with and have to defend your statements even if you put qualifiers.  In this case, I'm agreeing with everyone that she did a bad, bad thing and that she should be punished.  What I'm suggesting is that there might be mitigating circumstances such as post-postpartum depression that has led to her making poor decisions.  I'm not saying PPD exonerates her. 

This story is unfolding and when it first broke, the official reason for her lifetime ban was simply giving her friend her bib. IMO, that is too harsh.

After it was discovered that she was going to use her friends results to qualify for the next marathon, then it becomes more justifiable, but that wasn't the way it unfolded. I think a lifetime ban might still be too harsh. This isn't Shoeless Joe Jackson throwing a World Series.

Now if it turns out her previous qualifying times were falsified then she has earned a lifetime ban.



Anonymous May 24, 2015 at 6:33 PM

Just ran the Ottawa Marathon today and glanced through the women's results to see how quick I could find a suspicious result. Sure enough, bib 11799 is clearly not legit. Negative split of 2:01 1:19, missing 30k split. Past half marathon results are consistently in the low 2 hour range.
Marathon results: http://www.sportstats.ca/display-results.xhtml?raceid=26006&status=results&category=Women
Past results on roadraceresults.com
http://www.marathoninvestigation.com/p/post-questionable-results-here.html

This person decided that after finishing a marathon, they would celebrate that achievement by looking for cheaters.

Don't get me wrong, usually a person who course cuts usually does so on purpose.  However, there are just as many instances were a course wasn't clearly marked and someone legitimately goes the wrong way. [The opposite happens too.  My friend DrDrea ran an extra mile at the Las Vegas marathon in 2007 and while it didn't impact her qualifying for Boston (she wouldn't have done so even without the extra mile) what if it did?  ]


I'm all for a self-policing community, especially one that works together to expose cheaters.  However, some of these comments seem to have already judged and sentenced the alleged cheater before proper vetting of the evidence or the accused having any chance to defend themselves.







Tuesday, January 12, 2016

An example of how a post goes from here to ChicagoNow

Previously I wrote that sometimes a post starts out here and ends up here.  An example is this post I wrote called My Star Wars: The Force Awakens theory on who Rey is.  It started out as a couple of sentences because I wanted to write something about this video.  I noticed a hesitation at around 3 seconds, Ben Kenobi says "I was once a Jedi Knight..."

  



Once, as in no longer.

Of course once I started fleshing it out, it grew to a post more suitable for the other platform.

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Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Superheroes, Aliases and whatnot

When I was growing up, it seemed that a superheros secret identity was known only to a trusted few.  If someone new found out the identity, it was an unusual one-off situation, like a special guest star playing the part of Cousin Roy or a former sweet heart who meets a tragic end or they go away.  Sometimes it was contained in the classic amnesia trope.

Nowadays it feels like more people know the secret identity of a superhero (Arrow, Flash, Smallville — maybe it’s a CW thing) than can feasibly be sustainable.

Icarus at Star Wars Anonymous.

Over at Cribchatter, I've met a few people IRL.  We use our real identities in person but in our correspondence we still use the aliases.

The blogger at Star Wars Anonymous  and I are on a real name basis too.  She actually uses her first name on her blog and there might be references to her maiden name.

Over at Chicago Now there are a few bloggers that started out with aliases but have switched to their real name.  The thinking is that people are more likely to engage with a blogger that uses a real name than an alias and empirical evidence seems to support that.

I write under an alias in order to protect my day job in Corporate America.  Now I have no delusions that someone with a pulse and half a brain couldn't figure out my identity.  I certainly haven't taken NSA level safeguards to protect it.  



Wednesday, December 17, 2014

How we feel about the Bears this year

Just when you thought the train wreck that is the Chicago Bears couldn't get any worse, they find a way to make pathetic look professional.  I wrote my two cents on ChicagoNow but whoever made this video is a genius. 




 http://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=Nyck4IP3ec4

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Another Post Featured on the ChicagoNow front page


While I strive to take an act like you've been there before attitude, It's always kinda cool when a blog post I wrote gets featured on the ChicagoNow home page.  With the recent revamp of the Chicago Tribune I don't expect to ever be featured in the one slot allocated to ChicagoNow on the online edition again.

Clickable Link Here



Some of my fellow CN bloggers wonder how to get featured on the ChicagoNow front page so this is as good as any place to jot down what I've found.

  1. Content is still King:  Write something good and make a decent attempt at SEO headline and the Powers-That-Be will feature it.
  2. In Lieu of that, publishing just before 7 in the morning or noon in the afternoon can help catch the PTB attention.
  3. There isn't much activity during the weekend or holidays so that is a good time to post as well.
  4. Ask:  If you really want your post to be featured, I've heard asking will get it done.  Note: use this judiciously of course.
There you have it. 

Thursday, June 5, 2014

Made it into the Top 20 on ChicagoNow

So I got the #3 spot in the Top 20 Most-Visited Blogs (unique visitors) on ChicagoNow.
 

Top 20 Most-Visited Blogs (unique visitors) – June 2



1.       Uncommon Sense

2.       Cubs Den

3.       Mysteries of Life

4.       Get Fit Chicago

5.       Tween Us

6.       The Red Cup Adventures

7.       Portrait of an Adoption

8.       Baby Sideburns

9.       Moms Who Drink And Swear: Chicago Edition

10.   Show Me Chicago

11.   Cubs Insider

12.   Everything is Story Worthy

13.   Lists That Actually Matter

14.   Hammervision

15.   It’s Never Just Black And White

16.   High Gloss and Sauce

17.   Chicago Bulls Confidential

18.   The Wild Side of Chicago

19.   Bullsville

20.   Cheaper Than Therapy


Considering the #1 and #2 spots have larger audiences and controversial subjects respectively, I consider that quite good thing. I dropped to #11 on June 3 and today I don't imagine I'll be there at all. (update:  nope, I dropped off).

Which is fine with me. While I like the quick high of making the trifecta (front page of Tribune Online, CN Manager's Choice (which means being featured on ChicagoNow Start Page and placed on the ChicagoNow Facebook Fan Page) and being in the top 20, it is only a temporary standing. The next day someone will write about the latest SEO clickbait term and then it's their turn to sit among the heavy hitters like Baby Sideburns, Portrait of an Adoption et al at the cool kids table.

This is the 3rd time I recall being in the Top 20. The first time was some random piece I wrote on May of 2013 when I was writing about House Hunting. I'm guessing it was this one called  Hold your horses Condo Owners, it's not 2005 pricing just yet.  I got about 2500 hits that month, which was a big surge from the couple hundred I had been getting to that point.

The next one was a piece I wrote intentionally timed to get page-hits on the anniversary of the Steve Bartman Legacy.  That one brought about the largest amount of traffic at that point in time (13000+ pagehits that month) and though the pageviews ebbed off, I still now get residual traffic from it.

I suspect this week's post could surpass the Oct 2013 numbers especially if I can get another heavy hitter or two up before the month ends. I've got 25 days to get 4000 3000 more page hits.  If you feel like helping, use the links below.

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Thursday, March 13, 2014

My Two Blogs

So I was looking at the Google Analytics for this site versus my Chicago Now equivalent where I have been blogging since October 2012, and more consistently since last August.  Except for an occasional abnormality or one-off, I generally get less than 200 pageviews a month here.  Compare that to ChicagoNow where my readership is climbing and I am averaging 4K hits per month.
That makes a lot of sense.  For one thing, CN has a built in audience that tends to read the blog post that brought them there and then they click over to other items that catch their eye.  Secondly, I do more to promote those posts than I do here.  I use twitter (@Icarus2013), Facebook Fan Page and occasionally Google+.

The Chicago Now blog was called Adventures in House Hunting because when I signed on to get a blog at CN, the paradigm at the time was every blog should have a focus.  In other words instead of a place to dump your stream of conscience personal rantings, ravings and other BS (that's what this place is for), they wanted a variety of topics that would draw a unique and diverse readership.

I started off writing about our house hunting adventures but wasn't very consistent because 1) my day job started to get very busy and 2) we found a house and were under contract in early October.  My hope was to write about the search for that house in delay-mode but alas that intention never really saw the light of day.

Once you established your blog in your subject matter, e.g. Quilting, Real Estate, Mommy blogger, etc, then you could branch off and write about whatever stroked your boat at that moment.  In fact, we are often encouraged to do just that as long as we at least make an attempt to draw an audience.  I guess the best way to describe it is you can write about your thoughts on why the Grammys sucked or what an Idiot such and such celebrity/politician/pop culture icon is as long as you have a point and can draw some type of audience.

Now the site is called Mysteries of Life (although the URL cannot be easily changed) because obviously we found our house and I write about all sorts of things that strike my fancy.  Because people generally subscribe via email, RSS feed or plan old bookmark, there is very little risk of someone searching for this site and finding the other one or vice versa.  And if they do, a reasonable intelligent person should be able to figure out which blog they were looking for and that both blogs are authored by the same dude.  Or not.  After all, humans.

As I mentioned, I've been blogging on Chicago Now for over a year now.  The nice thing is that I can actually write about anything I want and we are encouraged to do so, though obviously personal crap should be reserved for ones private blog.  At CN, it's all about pagehits and traffic.  Rightfully so.

We are very fortunate that we have that avenue to post.  In the days of print media, we would be limited to physical space and competing with one another for column space.  In an electronic medium, there isn't much of a limit I suppose. 

We've had some blatherings where I've been able to actually meet fellow CN bloggers and we also have a private Facebook group where we also interact.  I've friended about a dozen or so bloggers.

We have heavy hitters like Baby Sideburns and High Gloss and Sauce.  Then there are the medium weights like Gary's Getting Real and Siblingless of Being Catholic...Really.  I actually started reading her blog years ago because I can relate to becoming Catholic through RCIA. 

In an odd sort of way, the group is part family, part high school.  Some are just more popular than others.  The Mommy Bloggers have an endless supply of material to draw from and have harnessed the ability to hammer out well written posts during nap time.

Saturday, March 8, 2014

How I work on my ChicagoNow Posts

It came with a Pen and Pen holder too
For whatever reason, I discovered that sometimes I get a good idea for a post when I am not within arms length of a computer.  It could be that my brain rests long enough to let the creative juices flow and a good idea sparks.  

So I got this primative tool paper notebook at one of these events at the office lobby.  I decided to carry it with me and whenever inspriation hits, I jot down the idea and any thoughts that come with it. 


The second tool I have is this Word document with a bunch of headlines that I hope to write sometime.  For the most part, the two are redundant, but the notebook is usually the first place the idea forms.  The Headlines doc was really supposed to be a one time thing that I would delete but it has taken on a life of its own.  When I publish a post, I strike through the list so as to show progress.  

The other day I went through and organized the headlines such that the ones that were closest to being publishable were moved to the top.  Sometimes it's a little more work to create a ChicagoNow post because I have to come up with a good, SEO headline and/or need some pictures that require good captions.  

The pictures also have to be mine or royalty free, because, you know plagiarism.  To that end, I have an iPhone and iPad filled with photos that can go along with these various posts.


Finally I also have a folder of notepad files that have rough ideas and thoughts, usually just a cleanup, fleshing out and expansion of the blurbs on the notebook.  The engineer in me wants to refine the workflow process but the creative side of me says: meh, why bother?